Long before the topic of moving came up, my partner and I came to an understanding about honesty. We both knew from experience how important it was to be able to have an open dialog about… anything. So we agreed to hear each other out. That no topic would be taboo, and that no penalty would come from the truth. When we have a conversation that although unintentional, is hurtful, we’ve often said “I need some time to process. Can we talk about this in a little bit?” and as hard as it is, we shelf what we’re talking about, and move on. Do the dishes together, or take the dog for a walk. But most importantly, we return to the conversation.
Now that we’re miles apart, we’ve both continued with our honesty policy. When I have a day where I’m mad that he’s not here, I can tell him, and we can talk about it. And when the day comes that he’s tired of hearing me complain about something, I KNOW he’ll tell me, and we’ll talk it through.
Being honest with your partner now will help your relationship for years to come.